Sometimes on the roads of life and in the car of living, we usually end up finding someone else on our driver’s seat, taking us on a smooth ride (or so they assume) towards our future. It’s usually our dear folks, our parents, our mummies & daddies who know the best for us and most of the times they are bang on accurate. I might sound a bit blasphemous for saying the unsaid but this fact is kind of a rude awakening from our dreams, “our parents are not always right”. They might be much more accurate than most of the things in the world but when it comes to a choice of your future, you would definitely want a second opinion, that of yours…
Well my parents always had an opinion and they were never shy to share/sugesst/yell and rare cases slap it to me. The point was, somewhere down the line I decide to be a rebel without a cause (like those political parties shouting “humari mange poori karo’”). Being so till the time I found something interesting to do with my life, something that bugged everyone was termed as a total disaster but in the end my folks did stand by me with my decision (though I still think it was to see me fail miserably and the say the classic “we told you so” but then that never happened). But the mistake of choosing their future for you isn’t theirs (if you want to call it a mistake don’t do it in front of them), as it’s all done with a touch of good faith and loads of expectations for the great one (you!!).
The bigger fight has always been the conventional against the crazy. Just to be clear, everything that your parents didn’t think of is crazy!!! Folks want an MBA, you want to be a rock star. Well in such cases I completely support the elderly brains, not because I hate rock stars…it’s just that a MBA degree will help immensely if the band-baaja doesn’t work. So study to get the degree and then rock on man! In such arguments it’s necessary to remember that any kind of degree will not determine your future but just safeguard it. A lot of graduates don’t end up becoming accountants or managers but the degree in their backpack helps them in their new direction, knowing that they won’t ever go out of a job if what they wanted to be didn’t work out as they planned.
Also don’t rush or panic when you are suggested to go for undergrad courses which might be a bit off your field of interest because management/ science/ commerce /anything else these courses teach you the basics and you might just have some fun learning them and then there are a lot of additional extra curricular activities which might appeal to the most of you. A lot of young minds who actually don’t know what they want to end up being and that lead to a lot of trauma. As a victim of this syndrome I would just say, keep you minds open, try not to follow what others say just because they said it and you never thought of it so its seems like a good idea…Answer for your future lies within you and you just need a flash of genius to understand what’s path your are supposed to tread on. All I would like to add is whenever the thought comes to you don’t judge it’s as something that’s written on stone just for you, instead try to find more about it so that it seems sensible to be ready to convince the world about it.
But then for all those whose are lost like once I was, find below 3 tips that helped me counter attack my father, it might help or for that matter might just help you get your folks more confused than you…
Well my parents always had an opinion and they were never shy to share/sugesst/yell and rare cases slap it to me. The point was, somewhere down the line I decide to be a rebel without a cause (like those political parties shouting “humari mange poori karo’”). Being so till the time I found something interesting to do with my life, something that bugged everyone was termed as a total disaster but in the end my folks did stand by me with my decision (though I still think it was to see me fail miserably and the say the classic “we told you so” but then that never happened). But the mistake of choosing their future for you isn’t theirs (if you want to call it a mistake don’t do it in front of them), as it’s all done with a touch of good faith and loads of expectations for the great one (you!!).
The bigger fight has always been the conventional against the crazy. Just to be clear, everything that your parents didn’t think of is crazy!!! Folks want an MBA, you want to be a rock star. Well in such cases I completely support the elderly brains, not because I hate rock stars…it’s just that a MBA degree will help immensely if the band-baaja doesn’t work. So study to get the degree and then rock on man! In such arguments it’s necessary to remember that any kind of degree will not determine your future but just safeguard it. A lot of graduates don’t end up becoming accountants or managers but the degree in their backpack helps them in their new direction, knowing that they won’t ever go out of a job if what they wanted to be didn’t work out as they planned.
Also don’t rush or panic when you are suggested to go for undergrad courses which might be a bit off your field of interest because management/ science/ commerce /anything else these courses teach you the basics and you might just have some fun learning them and then there are a lot of additional extra curricular activities which might appeal to the most of you. A lot of young minds who actually don’t know what they want to end up being and that lead to a lot of trauma. As a victim of this syndrome I would just say, keep you minds open, try not to follow what others say just because they said it and you never thought of it so its seems like a good idea…Answer for your future lies within you and you just need a flash of genius to understand what’s path your are supposed to tread on. All I would like to add is whenever the thought comes to you don’t judge it’s as something that’s written on stone just for you, instead try to find more about it so that it seems sensible to be ready to convince the world about it.
But then for all those whose are lost like once I was, find below 3 tips that helped me counter attack my father, it might help or for that matter might just help you get your folks more confused than you…
- Be cool – Assuming your parents have chosen the career of your…eh mmmmm…their dreams for you. Be cool and don’t say a downright no, that would make tempers take off, so play its cool, say that you will think about it. Now rush to your room if you have a comp or to the nearest cybercafé, learn all about the path of glory chosen for you, find all the loopholes for a good debate, have an ace up your sleeve (e.g. I don’t want to be come a doctor because I can stand the sight of blood and nobody wants a doctor who faints every 2nd patient he attends). Keep your defense ready and then be prepared of an alternative or something for more time think (just don’t end you appeal by saying “main hero ban na chahta hoon”)
- Act stupid- Dad says “I want you to study engineering”…you go “huh”…dad says “engineering”…you go “huh”…Do that till you get a slap or you are sent to your room and in the second session just say “engineering is good but I don’t think I have the aptitude for it”..Most probably he will end the conversation saying “I don’t think you have the aptitude plus the intelligence for it”
- Be prepared-Finally if you have chosen a path for yourself, be prepared in the subject. Before you have the talk about your future with your parents, study as much as you can about the career you want to end up with. The pay scale, the big pros, the placement opportunities, more like a 50 years plan of your future for them to have a goodnight sleep. Now again you have to be careful that you don’t make any of this up because be sure they are going to double check and if something doesn’t fall into place, be ready to get bambooed!!
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